Let's put Bradley into a youth sports context for a minute. We can all probably make an educated guess as to what this guy was like as a kid and how he became enabled. My hunch is that he was a kid with other-worldly talent who probably was given repeated free-passes for his bad behavior because he was just that good. We've all seen those kids, right? They know they are great and they've been told as much for their entire lives. Usually, these kids meet their match at some level and either become team players or wash out. But, occasionally a Milton Bradley, Carl Everett or Ryan Leaf makes it all the way through to The Show.
As a coach, you just have to nip this thing in the bud early. I've got a 10-year old kid on one of my own teams who I had to deal with this weekend. While he's not an "other-worldly" talent, he is better than the average bear, but he's a crybaby. I like the kid, but I am just not going to let my team break down because he feels the right to melt down, storm off the field, refuse to go in the game, or sulk when things don't go his way. So, in our first soccer game of the season on Saturday, it didn't take long for that 1st quarter snit to rear its ugly head. So, I subbed for him, he came to the sideline and flopped down like he's been shot with a Magnum. I calmly walked over to him, stood over him and asked if he was (physically) hurt. He began to go off about something tactical from the game, so I cut him off. I told him that his antics were unacceptable and that if he was going to do that he could leave now. I then told him that he had all the talent in the world and that if he didn't get control of the emotions he would never be picked for any of the "elite" teams he thought he should be playing on. I guess it got his attention, because he thought about it for a bit and then went back in the game and played his heart out. I have the feeling, though, that my position will likely need to be reinforced periodically until we can shake him out of this permanently.
I know on many elite teams, there just isn't the time to make one kid a project at the expense of everyone else. But, this is a rec team and I think it's worth working with him because for me it is the "right" laboratory. I am a volunteer coach and part of the satisfaction comes from helping these kids get something positive out of sport, aside from just winning a league. Don't get me wrong; I love to win as much as the next guy and I know it's no fun for anyone involved to have your team get crushed week after week. But working with a kid where his talent is the least of his problems is a challenge that can be very rewarding in the right context.
I wonder if Milton Bradley ever had a mentor who tried to rein him in during youth sports. Or, was he just one of those kids where they said, "I can't stand this kid but he really can crush the ball...."
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